🖋️ Behind the Scenes: Indie Author Life

Dealing with Criticism — Growing a Thick Skin Without Losing Heart and Other Unsolicited Tidbits

Who likes hearing their opus sucks?

No one, that’s who.

But it’s gonna happen. And more than once if you’re an indie author.

Let’s face it—there’s nothing some folks like better than to put others down.

Whether it’s a random one-star review with no explanation or someone offering advice that sounds more like an insult, it stings.

We pour our hearts, time, and caffeine into these stories, and then—bam—someone decides to drag them through the mud.

But here’s the thing, you can’t let it stop you.

Criticism, even the harsh kind, comes with the territory. Some of it might actually help you grow. Most of it? Not so much. The trick is learning how to tell the difference.

If a critique points out something specific—like pacing, clarity, or structure—it might be worth considering.

But if it’s just mean, vague, or clearly coming from someone who doesn’t even like the kind of story you write? Let it roll right off your back.

Because here’s the truth, no one else can know what story is living inside you but you.

You’re the only one who knows what you were trying to say, the heart behind the words, the reason you couldn’t stop writing until it was done.

Let’s be honest—this business isn’t for the faint of heart. 💪

The moment you hit publish, your words go out into the world and suddenly, everyone gets a vote. Some readers will love your story so much they’ll shout it from the rooftops.

Others, eh, not so much.

And that’s okay.

The truth is, being an indie author means developing a thick skin—but not a closed heart.

Does that mean we can’t grow from criticism?

No. Growth is part of the gig.

We learn, we improve, we evolve. Constructive feedback can be gold if it comes from someone who actually understands your genre, your intent, and your voice.

But does that mean we should listen to every critique that comes our way?

Also no.

Because here’s the bottom line: no one else can know what story is living inside you but you. You are the only person who truly understands the heart behind your words.

There will always be opinions—too short, too long, too spicy, too slow. Some people will tell you what they think you should write instead.

But that’s their story, not yours.

You are your own best friend in this industry.

Learning to trust yourself—your instincts, your voice, your creative rhythm—is the key to surviving and thriving.

And here’s the best part of being indie, you will find your people.

The readers who light up when they see your name.

The fellow authors who understand your struggles and celebrate your wins.

The friends who share your promo, clap for your milestones, and cheer when you finish that messy first draft.

The indie community at its best is built on support and shared success. We rise together by lifting each other up.

So if your current circle makes you feel small, unheard, or unworthy of your dreams—move on. Find your real people.

They’re out there, waiting to celebrate you.

Keep writing. Keep believing. And remember, you got this. ❤️

del mare alla stella,
C.D. Gorri